jUst being me.

Sometimes you’re not afraid of losing that someone. Neither are you afraid to be alone. What you cannot let go is you were cheated upon or you were ditched reluctantly.

Honestly, the word DITCH already means you were dumped without a choice. In my opinion, a couple, whether married or not, has every reason to try to make things work. The final call is when love is not present anymore.

And because of our unwillingness to allow things not to go our way, we get upset. The love becomes hatred and soon turns to vindictive behaviour. It’s pretty scary how our emotions overpower us sometimes. You’re no longer able to decipher if you want the relationship back because of love or is it just about winning? Sometimes you cannot accept that you lost to another guy/ girl and in the pursuit to make things go your way, you had unknowingly pushed the him/ her away.

If only people can accept that things in life don’t always go your way. Then you will realise it’s easier to let go. Forgive and forget. Revenge will not bring back the guy/ girl. 6 key words: Out of sight, out of mind. Platonic relationship just does not exist between some couples.

If you still find it hard to let go, think about losing their love to terminal illness. This is the best example of things in life don’t always go your way. Like it or not, he has to leave. You will be very sad. You will cry. Then someday you will realise he is not necessarily worse off in the after life, then you find contentment. You find peace.

Similarly, if you have to let go of someone against your will, pray that he / she will be happier as if he / she had been lost to terminal illness and had gone to paradise first. It’s all about choices.

If you say ‘It’s not easy.’ Of coz it’s not easy. But instead of saying ‘it’s not easy’ all the time, why don’t you ask yourself ‘What can be so difficult?’

Life goes on. Tomorrow when you wake up, inflation is still present. Fuel is still very expensive. It will still rain like it or not.

Of coz, not ALL things cannot be done your way. For eg, you can choose if you wanna go out and have fun or stay home and sulk. If you go out, you only want to laugh. This can be done your way. It’s your choice. You have the craving to have fried kway teow, of coz you can have your way too. (Unless your fave stall isn’t open, then you’re just, SUAY)

Thus, Mr X, if I am you, I would like to work on CONTROLLABLE factors only. Factors that you can change and control and make it work your way. Anything related to your own life. What you cannot control is someone else’s feelings and life.

Work on controllable factors. Smart people all do tt. If there is one drug addict in this world who can kick his habit and end up being a pastor helping other drug addicts, you can too. The pt is, as long as one person can do it, why can’t you?

So don’t say ‘CANNOT LA…. BUT HOR I…..’

Start saying ‘WHY CANNOT HUH? AND I WANT TO ….’

And rem, you dun always have things your way.

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