jUst being me.

You taught me to be stronger. You taught me what was pride. You made me a better girlfriend and I would like to thank you for it.

I now understand that guys must have their games, PC, PS2, PSP, arcade, whatever…

I remembered my first guy smashing his CD-Rom in front of me coz I was upset that he was spending a lot of time on it. Now, I play with my guy, at least before I dismiss it as BORING and not my cuppa tea. Btw, my guy now has been trying to find some Tennis game that we can play together on PS2.

Once he is comfortable that you actually dun mind him playing games, he allows you to be somewhere in his room while he is at it. He is happy that you do not mind and talks about how to kill the giant centipede in the next stage.

You taught me how to treasure. If not for the heartache and the jerks that I met later on in life, I wouldn’t know what is it like losing what was once precious but you took for granted.

You taught me to choose the right time, place and tone to express some thoughts that could be detrimental to the relationship. The same message told at diff times of the day and at different moods evoke different responses.

You taught me to be independent but ask for attention when the need arises. Guys generally like to protect their gals but over reliance can be quite a nuisance sometimes. Too powerful a girl makes you unattractive too. I’ve now learnt or is still learning to strike a balance between the two.

You taught me to be supportive and mean it. This means extending loads of understanding when you have to work hard and long. I have come to understand that my job is to love and be supportive. These are things that will keep a guy, not suspicions and distrust.

To Johannes: You taught me that Love is not selfish. You taught me that sometimes you just have to let go no matter how much you hate to. You taught me to take life seriously and to make the best out of it. You taught me that love can be great too. When a man needs no emotional burden to fight a war, you just got to respect it and that could possibly be what you can do for him. Instead of crying every night and hope for a miracle, you taught me to remain positive so as to give you all the energy to fight this battle.

I’ve learnt to learn in the relationship, not when it ends. This means constant reflections and communication to know where the relationship is heading. Communication is an Art. Its not just about speaking your mind. It’s about applying the right tone and thinking hard how to put something across without hurting your guy’s ego. It is also about encouraging feedback from your guy and not judging it before he finishes.

All in all, as long as love is present, anything can be worked out. Gone were the days where you threaten the relationship each time there is a quarrel. I’ve learnt that even if a relationship has to end, it can be done amiably.

I’ve learnt that patience and determination pays off. You cannot expect everyone to think like you. What you can do is to try to understand where the person is coming from and try to work around it. If a relationship is too smooth-sailing, there is really nothing to look forward to anymore. Its about overcoming obstacles that makes a relationship worth remembering.

Of course, I am not asking you to pick a quarrel later. Let nature take its course.

This blog serves to tell my readers to try their best at the relationship as long as love is present. It also serves to remind people who are under-going a hard time now in their relationship that each ending is never an end. It is the beginning of a learning process. Look forward to a stronger you. Look forward to what life has to offer after a routine is about to change. More often than not, people are in a relationship because it is a habit. They resist changes. They resist pain.

Lay the facts before you. Use a powerful tool, ie your mind to tell yourself, with these facts laid out, what are in your control. Facts are facts, they are beyond your control. Its funny to ask you to enjoy the process of a heartache but believe me, someday, you will realise the precious lesson that each heartache brings you. For this reason, you have to be patient and strong to experience such a day!

With this said, Thank you Yong Khang, Johannes and Chris, and many others who have shared their sob stories with me. Thank you.

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